A Holiday Miracle

Holiday light

Do you hear the “Ho, Ho, Ho” of a Santa Claus and want to cringe?  Do you watch TV commercials with happy families sitting around a table and want to throw the remote at the screen? Do you listen to your favorite holiday music and want to cry? 

During the holidays divorce can make it feel like a wrecking ball has demolished cherished traditions, loneliness often becomes more intense and we are left with one more thing to grieve.

It’s interesting that during December, the darkest time of year, we celebrate with Light. Lights are draped on homes and trees for Christmas. Candles are lit, glowing in windows during Kwanzaa and Hanukkah.

So, how do we find Light in the darkness that divorce can create in our lives? If feels like that would be a miracle, and this is supposed to be a season of miracles. We look around, and we don’t see any.

We don’t want to come up with new traditions, though we could come up with some great ones.  We don’t want to celebrate with our children on a different day than we usually do, though we know we can make any day sacred and joyful. We don’t want to build a new family with friends and long lost cousins, though they are really amazing people and provide us with wonderful support.

Frustrated, we learn to be patient, because often miracles happen slowly as we work to heal ourselves. Eventually we do create new meaningful traditions, surround ourselves with wonderful friends and family and build treasured memories with our children.

Then one day we see something glimmer, and the Light that had been dimmed begins to shine once again, or maybe for the first time. The miracle is that this Light is coming from within us.

And a larger miracle is at work. We are finding peace. Maybe that is how “peace on earth” begins, with each of us making peace with our past.

Wishing you Miracles and Peace


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Reader Interactions


  1. Tamara Genrich says

    Thank you for this post, Barb! This is exactly how I felt watching the Hallmark channel! My daughter asked me to get the channel and I did, thinking we would have something to do together. But with each movie I watched, I sank deeper into depression. Why will they only show nuclear families or widowers? Why is it so hard to depict a divorced family with a happy outcome? Funny, I didn’t feel the stigma of divorce until I watched that channel. So no more Hallmark for me! And I won’t buy their cards now, either!
    Hopefully I will be in a different place next Christmas.
    My Light throughout this has been RU! Thank you, Barb, for everything you do for us women during one the toughest times in our lives! You are a million candles!

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