Choose Your Feelings, Create Your Future

Written by Nancy Clairmont Carr, Learn more at NancyClairmontCarr.com

Choose your feelings carefully! You can choose how you feel about any situation in the moment.

It is very empowering to know we get to choose our mindset.  If we don’t like what we are thinking or feeling, we can change it. In this moment.  In fact, it is only in the moment that we have influence over ourselves and our future.  All decisions and actions come from how we think and feel.  Our decisions in the moment create our future. And all wellbeing comes from creating positive feelings and actions. The more positive our feelings and emotions are, the easier it is to attract what we desire.  It is a choice.

How do we make those shifts from negative to positive emotions?

Gratitude is the most well known strategy.  We know that any act of gratitude creates an immediate change in how we feel.  In fact, it is nearly impossible to continue to feel negative emotions when we begin to express or feel gratitude.  If the negative feeling is deep, go deeper into the specific person, thing or event for which you are grateful.  Consider what contributed to it, how it came about, why you are grateful for it, how it contributes to your wellbeing.  The deeper you go into gratitude, the more profoundly you change your feelings from negative to positive.

Performing an act of kindness is another powerful way to shift. By focusing on serving others in any way, we remove the negative energy we have been focusing on ourselves. And doing it not for their benefit but from the place of knowing you are giving of yourself.  You can’t help but change your internal feelings, especially when you don’t expect anything in return.

Thinking about something that gives you joy and happiness is another quick way to shift inner feelings. One of the things I love to do is see my children in my minds eye, when they were babies and sleeping, playing or now at their current age living independently and successfully accomplishing their goals.  What a quick turnaround that provides!

Creating internal shifts can also be accomplished by reflecting on past successes and accomplishments.  We tend to focus on whatever is negative at the moment.  By going to recent and other past successes, we can create the feelings we had with those successes and know it’s possible to feel that again.

We have control over ourselves and our future by choosing our attitude, feelings and actions now. Our feelings determine what we attract to us so it is important to take charge of them by any one of these or other effective strategies.