If You Think You Can, You Can…Really?

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I love motivational quotes, but sometimes I have to wonder.

You have probably heard this more times than you can count. “If you think you can, you can. And if you think you can’t, you’re right.”

Let’s start with the first part of the quote, “If you think you can, you can.”

Thinking you can save your marriage won’t change things if you’re the only one working on it. Thinking you can protect yourself or your children from difficult situations is not always possible. Thinking you can get everything you want in a divorce settlement rarely happens.

Please know that none of these things is as terrible as they may seem.

If you are the only one working on your marriage, it’s often a sign that the marriage is already over. Difficult situations can teach us so much if we pay attention, including how to become more resilient, create healthy boundaries and reconnect to our intuition. Not getting everything we want makes us reflect on what truly holds value for us.

What can you do when” thinking you can” isn’t enough? Take small steps forward. They may be to start a budget, have a cookie or take a nap. Ask for help, and reach out to people you trust. They WANT to help you.Take care of yourself. Get rest, exercise, eat the best you can and still have that cookie when you need!

The second part of the motivational quote is, “And if you think can’t, you’re right.”

Thinking you can’t survive your divorce is not unusual. Even so, women not only survive but thrive.

Sometimes it’s not about the voice in your head and how you choose to think. Sometimes it’s about the voice from your heart and what you choose to do.