The Four-Step Process to Alter Your Beliefs –  About the Impact of Divorce.

I speak quite often about the power of positivity or optimism – and the need to have an unwavering amount of it in order to reach any goal that you may have. I hate to say this, but you need more than just positivity and optimism…

There is a lot of truth (and most likely hundreds of publications) regarding your internal belief system. What you believe, becomes your reality. So it’s extremely important to take an honest and thorough investigation into each belief that you have – especially if it’s a limiting belief.

An example of a limiting belief is, “My divorce is so emotionally painful that my life is ruined and my future is lost.”

Every day, numerous thoughts roll through our mind that may be limiting us – I’ll never financially recover from my divorce, I’ll never be able to trust my instincts when it comes to choosing a new partner, I’ll never even find a new partner. And then there are limiting thoughts about other areas life – I can’t lose weight, I’ll always have arthritis, I’ll always be fearful of life…

The problem with limiting beliefs is that they actually limit us – hold us back from obtaining greatness, true health, true happiness and wealth. We allow our minds and these deep beliefs that could very well have been instilled in us as a child, to rule us as an adult.

The good news – you don’t have to limit yourself anymore – you CAN alter your beliefs.

Here’s the step-by-step method that I use to alter a belief that I feel is no longer serving me as an adult. It may have made sense as a child or young adult, but at 35 years old, it no longer needs to limit me:

STEP 1:   Write down the belief you want to change.

STEP 2:   Think about how you would feel if you changed that belief to one that serves you better. An example of this would be to imagine living a life filled with joy and gratitude for your new beautiful future, and emotionalize the feeling of relief and power that you’d gain when this belief is changed.

STEP 3:   Write down 1-3 actions and accountability steps you can take to make that feeling you experienced in STEP 2, a belief. An example of this would be starting a gratitude journal or connecting with a support group that inspires and encourages you.

STEP 4:   Implement your action plan.

One of the first emotions you’ll feel when you start changing a belief, is one of calmness. You are no longer giving the limiting belief power, you are taking back that power. The anxiety and stress associated with the belief is gone, because you are in control of it.

Our internal belief system will always play a part in our everyday life – it’s a given. Why not use that knowledge to build a belief system that serves you for who you are and where you’re at mentally and emotionally? It takes time to change just one belief, but with practice will come an entirely new reality– one of Happiness, Health & Wealth!

About the Author: Valerie Echter is a Certified Holistic Health and Lifestyle Coach, who specializes in emotional and mental wellbeing. She is a stress and anxiety expert, having worked through her own issues with severe social anxiety while at the height of her career in the oil industry and dealing with her own divorce. Valerie@EchterLifestyles.com