The 4 syndromes every woman faces and what to do about it (Part 2)

This is part one of a two-part series by our sponsor Dr. Shannon Gulbranson. Read part one here.

Whether it’s the “Cinderella Syndrome” or the “Disengagement Syndrome,” left undiagnosed and unchecked these syndromes can quickly advance to one of the most dangerous dis-eases of all.

A Divorced Heart

Each of us has gone through a loss or losses in life. Perhaps it’s the loss of a dream, desire, belief, relationship, marriage and/or a loved one. Life has a way of somehow getting our attention and it’s not always pretty. I can definitely attest to that.

Each of my divorces left similar, yet different wounds in my heart. The devastation of betrayal, abandonment and the “fairy tale” turned into a nightmare left me spinning out of control. I was ashamed, brokenhearted and felt completely alone.

Have you ever felt this way?

I learned the hard way that what you’re unwilling to face will continually chase you! The more you run this race, the faster you must run.

Problem #3: The Superwoman Syndrome.

I quickly became afflicted with the “Superwoman Syndrome” of constantly running, running, running, but getting nowhere. It wasn’t until I was faced with death that I began to see what I was running from.

The best way to stop running from something is to run to something, right? Nope! It’s time to simply stop.

Solution #3

When you began to “pause” and pay attention to what you feel, then you’ll begin to heal, my dear. In order to solve the problem, you must become willing to be the solution you so desperately seek.

When I finally began to pause, I noticed something. The picture I once held in my heart as the woman I was, had succumbed to the new belief that perhaps she no longer existed. I began to question if my dreams were possible, and wonder if “I” was possible.

This was becoming my new belief. But was it being created (and perpetuated) by my old story? My “Poor Me” story.

Problem #4: The Poor Me Syndrome

You know what I’m talking about! It’s when we point outside ourselves for justification as to why we are or why we are where we are. Are you sharing facts? Possibly. But it’s also quite possible that the facts have been embellished upon with a very elaborate story known as your “Poor Me” story! 

Solution #4

My life forever changed when I told my story from the perspective of the writer and not the character. I no longer chose to be the damsel in distress, while pretending to be the powerful leading lady. Instead, I became the leading lady in my own story, while living a new role of love, life, lessons and legacy. This new storyteller no longer pretends to be anything that she’s not, nor does she tell a story that she doesn’t choose to live.

You can too. 

A poor me story will keep you poor.

Your “rich me” story of healing will keep you healthy and “wellthy”.

To learn more about healing a divorced heart, the possibility that follows and how to become the great lover of your life, go to Dr. Shannon’s website for The Ultimate Engagement Plan.