The Power of a Single Thought

The following is a guest post by Louise Griffith of One Shining Light.

When divorce—like any other traumatic experience—enters your life, it can feel like your control is ripped out of your hands. You may feel helpless, victimized or completely exhausted. You may spend all your energy thinking and obsessing over your situation as your emotions wildly fluctuate between anger and depression. You might wonder “Will I ever feel like myself again?”

Although there are certain aspects of your situation that fall beyond your control (you can’t change the past!), you are still in charge of your journey. Even on your darkest days, you have the power to rise up, reignite your inner light and work toward positive results.

It starts with a single thought.

Tell yourself, “I have control.” Repeat it to yourself and truly mean it.

When you take control of your inner dialogue, you take control of your life. Positive thoughts lead to healthy beliefs and these beliefs drive changes in attitude and emotion. When your attitude and emotions start to improve, you tend to make better choices and take healthy, life-affirming actions. Eventually, you’ll start to find that continuous, positive actions will lead to results.

It all begins with thought. The things you tell yourself every day can help you overcome blame, seek support and give you renewed energy and purpose. Changing your thought patterns is not an easy task, but it is within your control. Start by tuning in and being conscious of what you are thinking. From this place of awareness, start talking back to your negative thoughts! Remind yourself why you are worth it.

Don’t be afraid to involve others in your healing journey. Confide in trusted friends and family members, consult a therapist or coach, or find networks of women undergoing the same struggles. Seeking the support of others is a positive coping behavior that can help boost your energy and improve your thinking patterns.

On the road to healing, you have the power. Your actions can propel you ahead or keep you frozen in place. Every step forward is driven by the power of thought. How will you change your thinking today?

Women, Divorce, and Courage

Courage is fear that has said its prayers.—Dorothy Bernard

Written by Louise Griffith, One Shining Light

Courage is a state of “being,” rather than “doing.” It is to be held close, developed, and savored. Your inner courage will direct you to the areas of your life calling out to be changed. The rewards of honoring this are far greater than the risks, even though you certainly may not have a sense of the outcome. When you stand in courage, you make powerful choices for yourself.

Find the courage to be who you really are. It is within you, and no one can take it away from you. Courage is the willingness to act, even when frightened. Give yourself permission. You have the right to be different from how others think you should be. Identify your wants, needs, and feelings. Be yourself. Find the courage to live the life you love and live it powerfully.

Courage is the key to conquering your objectives. Without it, you would not take the first step or take necessary risks to achieve your dreams and goals. Confidence, courage, and a spirit of sacrifice are essential to get you to where you really want to go. Courage engages your heart.

You are the expert on doing something to take you out of your comfort zone. It is not about “right or wrong.” It is not about comparing comfort zones. It is about honoring your truth with a sense of adventure and fun. What is courageous for you is to live your absolute truth. Honor that.

Without courage, all other virtues would be obsolete and fail to exist. It takes courage to display passion, humility, honorability, integrity, truth, confidence, strength, compassion, and vulnerability on a day-to-day basis. It is also the foundation piece of the essence of who you truly are.

I Am Worth It Next Steps:

  1. As you reflect over your life, do you see when you first began to lose courage?
  2. How did you regain it?
  3. What are three courageous things you have said or done of which you are very proud?
  4. Where do you find the courage to make the changes you know you need to make in spite of the reactions of others? It is there.

You have the wisdom and courage to take your next step. You know what it is.   You ARE Worth It!

Thank you Louise Griffith for sharing this chapter of your inspirational book: You are Worth It

Louise Griffith
One Shining Light
“Illuminate Possibilities. Inspire Change. Transform Lives.”
Louise@OneShiningLight.com
952-484-3100

Set Clear Boundaries

Written by Louise Griffith, www.oneshininglight.com

Do you ever find yourself saying, “But they need me. If I don’t do it, who will?” The truth of the matter is others may “need” your gifts, time, and even financial support because you have much to contribute. Your willingness to help can make others’ lives easier and perhaps less stressful. The important thing is whether or not their request will work for you. How often do you say “Yes,” when your internal wisdom is telling you to say “No?” Listen to your inner voice because it wants to protect you from spreading yourself too thin. Be clear. You might say something like, “Thank you for thinking of me. At this time, I am going to say ‘No.’” You really do not have to explain why. It is your right to do so.

Don’t compromise yourself. You are all you got!- Janis Joplin

Saying “No” can be one of the most honoring things you can do for yourself. When you set a boundary, you might disappoint the person making the request. It’s okay. Boundaries are not always comfortable to establish; however, they’re a bridge to receiving the peace and freedom you deserve. They help keep you from becoming overstretched and resentful in the long run. Speak up, and ask for what you want. It is also your birthright. Remember, you teach others how to treat you. Setting boundaries is part of any caring relationship. Negotiating to get your own needs met helps you know and trust yourself, and it also helps others know and trust you as well.

If your limits are violated, speak up. Allowing people to take advantage of you isn’t noble or necessary, especially when you can do something to stop it.

Remember, you teach others how to treat you.

I Am Worth It Next Steps:

  1. Pay attention. Do you tolerate the intolerable? Do you normalize the abnormal? Do you accept the unacceptable?
  2. What price have you paid for these choices?
  3. Can you forgive yourself for the times you let it happen?
  4. Do you know what it feels like to be treated with respect and dignity from others and also from yourself? Reflect and take note of the impact.
  5. Reflect upon a time when you set very clear boundaries with another person. Regardless of the outcome, as you go deep within, how did you feel?

Louise Griffith MA, LP

Louise Griffith MA, LP

About Louise Griffith

Louise is an internationally recognized speaker, psychologist, success coach and author who helps clients get clear about what they want and then achieve it. She works with people who want to know what makes them tick and motivates them to take action in a positive and productive way. Her training deals with the core issues that stand in the way of moving forward personally and professionally and how people can be their best on a daily basis. Louise is known for shining a light on life’s possibilities.

Reclaim Your Personal Power

Written by Louise Griffith, www.oneshininglight.com

Personal power is your ability to change the direction of your life. It is the energy fueling your actions. It is not about “power over” another human being, but power coming from within yourself. Personal power allows you to focus your attention in an area of your choice.

When I dare to be powerful—to use my strength in the service of my vision—then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid. – Audre Lorde

Perhaps you learned to surrender your personal power early in life as you worked hard to please others and live up to their expectations. You may have been taught in subtle and not-so-subtle ways to live by rules imposed upon you. As time went on, you may not have realized you did indeed have choices.

Once you make the choice and decide you are worth it, no matter what your “it” is at this moment in your life, you become the decision maker and are in the driver’s seat of your life. You have the power to choose, which no one can take away from you. Personal power is about being in alignment with your thoughts, feelings, integrity, and soul. You are the one who can make it happen. Personal power is based on strength, confidence, and competence you acquire as you move toward self-realization. With a little imagination and a lot of determination, you can make miracles happen.

Personal power is about being in alignment with your thoughts, feelings, integrity, and soul.

I Am Worth It Next Steps:

  1. When you hear the term “personal power,” what does it bring up for you?
  2. In order to claim your full power, what do you choose to leave behind?
  3. What do you need to do so you can live in the moment and not be reacting to the past?
  4. What do you choose to step into—something over which you do have control?
  5. Name three of your greatest assets ready to support you right now. Focus on these this week.

Louise Griffith MA, LP

Louise Griffith MA, LP

About Louise Griffith

Louise is an internationally recognized speaker, psychologist, success coach and author who helps clients get clear about what they want and then achieve it. She works with people who want to know what makes them tick and motivates them to take action in a positive and productive way. Her training deals with the core issues that stand in the way of moving forward personally and professionally and how people can be their best on a daily basis. Louise is known for shining a light on life’s possibilities.

 

 

Grow in Gratitude

“If the only prayer you say in your whole life is “Thank you,” that would suffice.” Meister Eckhart

Gratitude is defined as a felt sense of wonder, thankfulness, and appreciation for life.  It is more than simply a pleasant emotion to experience or a polite sentiment to express. (more…)

Are You Willing to be Worth it?

Louise Griffith MA, LP 952-484-3100 Louise@oneshininglight.com www.oneshininglight.com

Louise Griffith MA, LP
952-484-3100
Louise@oneshininglight.com
www.oneshininglight.com

It is common to feel like a failure and not worthy when one is going through a divorce, whether or not it is or was your choice. In the end, however, only you can decide the answer to this question. It is important that you honor your wisdom within. Think of the times that you have honored that gentle knowing. What has been the outcome when you paid attention as well as when you ignored it?

Wisdom brings perspective that informs your choices. Wisdom can be accessed when you are in the now. Wisdom is the memory of the soul.

Fear can drown out the voice of wisdom. Fear of the unknown and foreseen as well as unforeseen consequences can keep you from honoring your truth. At the core of who you are, you know what is right for you. At times, you may need the help of a trained professional to journey with you to get to that place. Others may not understand. However, if you don’t honor your own soul, who will? (more…)